To love someone in human form is often to love the reflection of yourself that they offer you.
The way they treat you reflecting back to you what you know love to be. But, what do we know love to be? The full meaning of love?
Do we truly know what unconditional love is?
What it feels like?
You see, in a relationship we often choose partners who mirror back to us what we LEARNT love to be, not what it truly is.
So, it feels like love.
It looks like love.
But this is different to what love truly is.
We learnt to love through our parents, the love they gave us, the way we watched our parents’ relationship unfold as children, often becoming the blueprint for our relationships as adults.
Even watching the way that our parents loved themselves, often becomes the way we learn to love ourselves.
Children imitate to learn through experience.
So then, what really is the full meaning of love?
Unconditional love?
Love without conditions.
This is hard to grasp.
Truly.
When we delve into it, we allow the emotions that we feel towards a person to fluctuate based upon their actions.
We revoke love when someone says or does something to hurt or upset us.
“Love knows no bounds.”
Except, when we CHOOSE LOVE, not the person, not the relationship…
But when we choose love itself!
Devoting ourselves, fully, to love.
When we practice the art of love, chasing it over everything else, again, and again and again…
We become the embodiment of love.
Love is an energy that flows through us, it is something that we are.
Love is not something that we have, nor is it ours to claim.
It starts when we choose love.
Radically. Unapologetically.
When we choose to love ourselves first, to open ourselves up to the ever-present force of love that is yearning to flow through us and encompass us, that unconditional love of God, the Goddess, The Universe, we become one with love.
The ONLY person that can take that away from you, is you.
What does choosing love mean to you?
How can you choose love today?
And it is hard, believe me.
When you have spent years running in loops of conditional love and “they will love me if…” or “I will love them as long as…”
Sometimes choosing love means walking away from what you think you want, who you want and betting on yourself.
It means listening to your body, your heart, your womb/hara, your soul and trusting THAT over the logic of your mind and the stories you have told yourself about whatever it is.
It means showing up fully and saying, I choose love.
Love is to merge with all that is.
The full meaning of love is to remember your wholeness.
The oneness within you that merges with the entire universe.
To dissolve into the stars. Becoming one with them. No separation.
To melt into music until you can’t tell where your body starts and ends, one infinite flow of harmony & symphony. Total ecstatic bliss.
To merge with others. To see no other as separate from yourself, simply a reflection of the aspects that live within you, your consciousness, the collective consciousness, which is, you.
They are you, and you are them.
What you condemn in others, lives within you too.
When we can see, with humanity, that we are all one of the same, we meet in compassion, joy, curiosity, eyes wide open, drinking it all in because everything and everyone is an expression of the divine.
Everything in existence is an expression of a fractal within you.
You are both everything and nothing.
Let the pulse of love from the beating heart of the universe flow through you in a very moment.
Even when you are stricken with grief, allowing it to crack you open, leaving even the smallest space for love to creep in.
How can we allow ourselves to be penetrated more deeply by love itself? Especially in our darkest moments?
Love is everything.
Love is within you,
flowing through you.
Love IS you.
It was never outside of you sweet soul, it was always within.
It is already yours.